A Word or Two for Spouses
When was the last time you had a 'honeymoon'? Never...??? LOL!
Honestly, this might secretly be the reality for many a couple. It's so evident that marriage despite it's pre-nuptial allure quickly descends to become unrecognizable and a convenience of sorts instead of the wonder that it's supposed to be.
I want to use this medium to briefly touch on certain things that we often ignore and refuse to consider as we struggle to 'shore up' our marriage rating.
Basically, the first thing that people forget is that our marriages are like gardens. They need constant care and nurturing. And it can never be enough...each single moment needs to be consciously made into a mutual building block...that sprinkle of freshness that waters the garden and leaves the air rented with the smell of love, companionship and faithfulness.
Next, we find that people mistakenly let themselves be deceived into always thinking that renewing our bonds needs 'resources' in the form of money & time!!! This represents the greatest fallacy in 'Marriage Economics'. 'Scarcity' is in reality a construct of the mind and we only convince ourselves that we 'need'...when in reality we are amidst abundance. For how can you lack when you are blessed with 'creativity' and 'presence'.
To put it in simpler terms: what 'time' do you lack when you wake and sleep with a person? Eternity...is when a husband holds his wife's hands and 'talks' to her and she in turn 'listens' or vice-versa...Endless...is the time between a hug, a kiss and parting.
Then in terms of the so-called 'money'...I would say that with all the money that Bill Gates has if creativity isn't brought into play in the day to day activities, it's hard to see where the marriage would go as boredom would surely set-in. Thus in essence it isn't so much: how much...as it is what much. In other words all around us we are surrounded by all sorts of tools that we can use to inject a flourish into our married life. We don't need to buy anything for a romantic experience...just look around and improvise!!!
Is it a flower you need to get for her...just get her a live plant...or is it that you want her to feel special? You don't need to take her to a dinner outside...just try to (once in a blue moon) be early home and be in the kitchen with her like the Rasool (SAW) and at least see her prepare a full meal in your presence while you chat and commend her 'cooking skills'...and see how she'll light up and feel as if she was still that young lady/girl you met and courted!!!
There are thousands upon thousands of things a couple could do simply, cheaply if not effortlessly to have a renewed experience and rekindle the passion in their marriages. All it needs is the will to do so.
Thus in conclusion, I dare you to this minute start planning a wonderful surprise for your spouses that will sweep 'them' off their feet...and as for the strong-willed and exuberant ones you don't need to settle for a 'once in a blue moon' event...for this can be your new life every single day. So I toast: To having Honeymoons everyday!
Haidar Wali 201201180215hrs
Honestly, this might secretly be the reality for many a couple. It's so evident that marriage despite it's pre-nuptial allure quickly descends to become unrecognizable and a convenience of sorts instead of the wonder that it's supposed to be.
I want to use this medium to briefly touch on certain things that we often ignore and refuse to consider as we struggle to 'shore up' our marriage rating.
Basically, the first thing that people forget is that our marriages are like gardens. They need constant care and nurturing. And it can never be enough...each single moment needs to be consciously made into a mutual building block...that sprinkle of freshness that waters the garden and leaves the air rented with the smell of love, companionship and faithfulness.
Next, we find that people mistakenly let themselves be deceived into always thinking that renewing our bonds needs 'resources' in the form of money & time!!! This represents the greatest fallacy in 'Marriage Economics'. 'Scarcity' is in reality a construct of the mind and we only convince ourselves that we 'need'...when in reality we are amidst abundance. For how can you lack when you are blessed with 'creativity' and 'presence'.
To put it in simpler terms: what 'time' do you lack when you wake and sleep with a person? Eternity...is when a husband holds his wife's hands and 'talks' to her and she in turn 'listens' or vice-versa...Endless...is the time between a hug, a kiss and parting.
Then in terms of the so-called 'money'...I would say that with all the money that Bill Gates has if creativity isn't brought into play in the day to day activities, it's hard to see where the marriage would go as boredom would surely set-in. Thus in essence it isn't so much: how much...as it is what much. In other words all around us we are surrounded by all sorts of tools that we can use to inject a flourish into our married life. We don't need to buy anything for a romantic experience...just look around and improvise!!!
Is it a flower you need to get for her...just get her a live plant...or is it that you want her to feel special? You don't need to take her to a dinner outside...just try to (once in a blue moon) be early home and be in the kitchen with her like the Rasool (SAW) and at least see her prepare a full meal in your presence while you chat and commend her 'cooking skills'...and see how she'll light up and feel as if she was still that young lady/girl you met and courted!!!
There are thousands upon thousands of things a couple could do simply, cheaply if not effortlessly to have a renewed experience and rekindle the passion in their marriages. All it needs is the will to do so.
Thus in conclusion, I dare you to this minute start planning a wonderful surprise for your spouses that will sweep 'them' off their feet...and as for the strong-willed and exuberant ones you don't need to settle for a 'once in a blue moon' event...for this can be your new life every single day. So I toast: To having Honeymoons everyday!
Haidar Wali 201201180215hrs
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